The hardest thing for children to go through is the endless conflict and distress that comes with a dissolving marriage. They often have to deal with their negative emotions themselves, and they often find ways to cope with the pain of watching their parents grow apart that are not entirely healthy.
Codie explained, “My mom has bad knees, and my stepdad works out of town. When my younger siblings questioned, ‘Why is your dad mowing mom’s lawn?’ I told them, ‘Because, she needed help, and he knew she couldn’t get out here to do it, so he did.'” Her father had come to see her while on vacation, which was when he decided to help his ex-wife with her chores.
Children pick up what they learn from their childhood and carry it all the way into their adulthood. Whether it’s a positive or negative experience, they learn to use that to make important decisions and choices. Codie feels like she’s carried her parents’ positive and healthy behavior into her adulthood, revealing that she greatly benefited from their amicable relationship with each other even after their marriage fell apart. Read more on next page>